Self-confidence is needed to achieve almost everything in life, it keeps us motivated to continue even if we go through some bad phases. We feel a different energy inside that makes us feel that yes, we can achieve anything in every aspect of life, be it health or career or dealing with people or facing stage or others. But we all do not have the same level of self-confidence; some people struggle with it.
Some people have this quality from an early age but those who lack can learn, and self-confidence is something that can be learned with consistent practice every day. You need to know first why people lack self-confidence. Once we know the problems, we can find the answers; can act upon those quickly to regain our confidence.
So, what’s causing low self-confidence?
Procrastination – Some people have a habit of procrastinating and don’t respect the deadline. They keep pushing back the timeline to another time or day; in this case, the works get pending for a long, don’t get the results as expected and that affects their willpower & confidence level.
Bad experiences – Sometimes we fail badly, we don’t get the results as expected and that creates bad experiences in our memory. We start accepting that we can’t do that but that’s not the truth, we need to get out of such memories and start afresh as beautiful things take time to achieve.
Bad companions – Sometimes our closer ones put our confidence down because of jealousy. They don’t want to see us succeed and distract us from our goals or work; make us believe that we can’t achieve that.
Comparisons – Sometimes we compare ourselves with others, we appreciate their success while we look down on ourselves. We visualize a better picture for them while we see ourselves struggling & not achieving what we aspire for. And, such negative visualization causes low confidence which we need to avoid. We need to respect both, us & others.
Perfection – We can’t achieve perfection in anything irrespective of how hard we work. Yes, with sheer hard work, we can improve the results to the next level but perfection is always far, there is always some area of improvement we need to keep doing for better results. Those who look after perfection hurt their self-confidence as that is a far-reaching thing.
Impatience – Whatever we are working on, it takes time to achieve that, but sometimes we want results quickly and if we don’t get them, we start thinking we did something wrong, we lack talent, or other negative assumptions; when we behave like this we make more mistakes and end up losing confidence.
